||Ah, but there lies the rub. For many people in many different ways, sex is power. Men find power in sex through pleasure, through position (why do you think non-missionary sex is illegal in so many places?) through penetration, et al. Women find power in sex through similar means, but also through control. That it is so common among so many cultures speaks of a far more primal (read: biological) outlook toward sex.
But I agree with you. People confuse sex for so many other things, including love, commitment and power. Humans would benefit by a change in attitude toward sex, and it would mark a significant step in our growth. And yet, I believe there's something inherently linked between our drive for improvement and success and our drive for sex.
Biologically, the sex drive is part of the need to prosper and endure, and humans have taken that drive to an unprecedented degree. I think that blunting that drive could have possible consequences for our future, and I feel that those consequences would have positive and negative elements. On one hand we would be far less destructive and selfish, but on the other hand we could lose a lot of what impels us to see what's around the bend, to push the boundaries and do what we thought was impossible.
This is mere philosophical meandering, and should in no way be taken as observation or a scientific study. It's just how I feel about us as a species. I would love to figure out how to teach the human race how to channel our drives without letting them spill into harmful and destructive paths, but I don't want to curb that drive in the slightest. That's why I place so much emphasis in the distinction between sado-masochism and rape. That fine point could mean the difference between domestication and neutering.
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